Monica is right. The beginning of the second quarter is indeed a roller-coaster ride. I was skeptical while watching the popular American sitcom ‘F.R.I.E.N.D.S’. How could a bunch of adults, possibly be this reckless? But I realized that they are as real as you and me. No matter how much we try to be in control, a majority of us (except a few exceptionally good control freaks) are invariably going to go through a phase where we will be irresponsible, ignorant and clumsy and end up feeling helpless.
Early twenties is the period when we meet a lot temporary people. A couple of childhood friends with whom you pinky-sweared that you would remain friends forever, will teach you that there is no such thing as ‘Forever’. There will be people with whom you bond surprisingly well within days but you’ll be shocked by the speed at which they leave your life. There will be people you mistake for friends; many who pretend to be your friend; some who betray you. There will be a handful of two-faced people and those that belittle you. There will be people who come into your life, to teach you what it feels like to be in love. They may not stay long enough to reciprocate that love. But eventually you’ll fall out of it. At times when people ask you “Do you have a plan?” you’d think “Plan? I don’t even have a pla…” You may feel lost and helpless. Many lousy Christmases and crappy New Years’ will pass by as we struggle with friends, family and relationships.
Slowly you tend to realize that your most trusted companion is, you. Rachel felt like a fish out of water when she moved out of her house but she believed in herself; she did not look for an easy way out. When people leave you, it means their role in your life is over. They would have taught you everything they had to teach. Nobody is gonna stay with you forever. Learn to accept it and move on. Sometimes missing somebody, doesn’t mean you want them back; it is a part of moving on. Change is inevitable. I cried when Chandler had to leave Joey and move in with Monica but things turned out to be great for both of them! Your experience with people, will remind you to think twice before opening up to anybody. Your expectations will reduce and you will become emotionally independent and mature. The heartbreaks will teach you that it’s not the end of the world and that there is so much more to life than just relationships. Monica thought she and Richard were perfect for each other until Chandler happened; and she didn’t look back ever since. Life is all about making mistakes and learning from them. But learn from your mistakes, don’t be like Ross!
Joey taught us to be childlike and sensitive and to be there for our loved ones. Monica taught us that it’s okay to have a little OCD, as long as we are loving and generous. Phoebe taught us to be spontaneous and crazy! From Chandler, we learnt not to take life too seriously. Rachel taught us that it’s okay to be a little materialistic and obsessed with looks, as long as we are caring and considerate. Ross taught us to be proud of ourselves and what we do, irrespective of what others think. Oh! And to get divorced 😀 Marta Kauffman believes that “A show has a lifespan, it has a lifespan like anything else, and there’s no reason to continue doing it just because people miss the characters.” She is absolutely right but a part of me still hopes that there will be a ‘F.R.I.E.N.D.S’ reunion. Yet, I agree with Marta Kauffman when she says “Watch the old ones, there is no way we could win that. And there’s no way it would be satisfying and it’ll never happen. We’ll never do it.” I’m grateful to ‘F.R.I.E.N.D.S’ for it has helped me get through some of the toughest days of my life ❤
Here is a link to the article from The Hindu:
The Hindu: No ‘Friends’ reunion, producer confirms
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